Tangles, Tears & Tenderheads

by Tania Banks April 05, 2025

Tangles, Tears & Tenderheads: Turning Kids' Hair Care into Fun, Not Fights!

Let’s be honest, doing your child’s hair can sometimes feel like an Olympic event, especially if they’ve got a lot of hair! Between all the flinching, the running, and the dreaded “Are we done yet?” every five minutes, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed—or just too tired to deal with it.

But here’s the good news: it doesn’t have to be a struggle.

With the right products, a fun routine, and a little bit of patience, you can actually turn hair care into a bonding moment that both you and your child enjoy. Yes, enjoy.

Here’s how to ditch the stress and embrace the joy of kids' hair care.

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Common Struggles We All Know Too Well

• Tender-headed little ones who flinch at every stroke

• Meltdowns over tangles and knots—or just hearing the words “hair time”

• Changing their mind mid-style after you’re halfway done

• Dryness, breakage, or product buildup that makes detangling feel like a full-time job

Sound familiar? You’re not alone.

I have two boys—my oldest is the tender-headed one with zero patience, and my youngest isn’t tender-headed at all, but you’ve got to keep him entertained. The difference? I started doing my youngest’s hair when he was very little. I made it a regular part of our routine and found ways to keep him comfortable and happy, so he could stay calm and relaxed through the process.

My oldest recently started wanting to grow his hair out, so I’ve had to learn what works for him, what he can handle, and which products make a real difference. With a few adjustments to your routine, those tough moments can become more playful, more peaceful—just like they have for us.

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Hair Care Tips That Make It Easier (and More Fun!)

1. Start with the right products.
Using the right products from the start makes everything smoother—literally. At Herbs & Oils Haircare, we swear by The Tonic and the Top It Off Conditioner. Together, they soften the hair, melt through tangles, and leave curls juicy and moisturized—without any harsh ingredients.

Here’s what our routine looks like:

Every other Sunday is Hair Day at my house. I start by washing their hair with the Naturally Bubbly Shampoo, making sure it’s nice and clean. When it’s time to condition, I take my time. First, I make sure the boys are comfortable—usually lying on the counter with their heads in the sink, cushioned and cozy. I’ve got their favorite show playing in the background, and I let them test the water before we begin. Involving them in the process makes it way more fun and relaxing for everyone.

Once I apply the Top It Off Conditioner, it melts into their curls and makes detangling a breeze. I work in sections, combing from ends to roots while holding each section to reduce tension and avoid pulling. The right technique paired with the right product? Game-changer.

After rinsing, I use The Tonic as a leave-in to keep things soft and manageable. Then I moisturize and style their hair with the Curly Cocktail, which define their curls and lock in moisture while keeping everything extremely soft.

2. Turn Wash Day into Spa Day.
Play music, let them wear a little robe or wrap themselves in their own towel, and maybe even give them a mirror to “help.” Making it feel like a special moment works wonders.

3. Use distractions to your advantage.
TV, tablets, coloring books, or even a favorite toy can keep them still while you work your magic.

4. Let them choose their style.
Instead of forcing one look, give them two or three simple choices. It helps them feel in control and makes the process smoother for you.

5. Speak life into their hair.
Talk about how beautiful, strong, and unique their curls or coils are. When you hype them up, it builds pride and self-love. Kids repeat what they hear—so make sure they’re hearing love.

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Make It Magical: The Hair Kit Trick

Create a special “hair kit” just for them! Include their own brush, spray bottle, favorite products, and some fun accessories. Giving them a sense of ownership makes it feel more like their time, not just a chore.

Want to take it up a notch? Give things fun names—like “Magic Detangle Spray” (aka The Tonic). A little imagination can turn stress into smiles.

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 Love Over Perfection

At the end of the day, it’s not about perfect parts or flawless braids—it’s about care, patience, and confidence. When you approach your child’s hair with love and use products that nourish and protect, you’re building something bigger than a hairstyle. You’re building a connection.

So the next time wash day rolls around, take a deep breath, grab your Herbs & Oils faves, and remind yourself: You’ve got this. 💪🏽👑

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